Embracing the Summer Chaos; Finding Balance Amidst Anxiety

Erin Bratsky, MSW, LCPC

June, 2024

Ah, summer vacation – a time for relaxation, sun-soaked days, and carefree living. Or so they say. If you're anything like me, summer brings a unique kind of anxiety that has me feeling like I'm never quite where I'm supposed to be. As a mom, a wife, a business owner, and a therapist, the pressure to juggle everything perfectly can be overwhelming. So, let's get real about the struggle and share some honest, hopeful, and yes, even funny insights into navigating summer anxiety. 

The Summer Juggle: Home, Work, and Everything in Between 

First off, can we talk about the guilt? Whether I'm at home with my kids, focused on growing my business, or dedicated to my clinical caseload, there's always that nagging feeling that I'm not doing enough. And let's not forget the pressure to have a relaxing summer. It's like the universe expects us to be zen masters while spinning a dozen plates in the air. 

There are days when I feel like I should be at home, making the most of these precious years with my 15 and 11-year-old girls. Other times, I worry about my business, Brighter Sky Counseling, and whether I'm giving it the attention it deserves. And then there's the clinical caseload – my wonderful clients who count on me for support and guidance. Balancing all these roles often leaves me feeling like I'm spread too thin. 

The Internal Tug-of-War 

The internal dialogue can be relentless: "You should be more present with your kids," "You need to focus on your business," "Your clients need you," and "Don't forget to relax and enjoy summer." It's exhausting. And while I'm working on self-love, self-compassion, and healthy boundaries, the struggle is real. 

One of my boundaries is limiting screen time, which is easier said than done when my phone seems to have a magnetic pull. I've also been practicing saying no when I need to, and yes to the things that light me up – like camping with my family and nurturing my tomato plants (fingers crossed I don't kill them this year!). 

Finding the Humor and Hope 

So, how do we navigate this summer anxiety without losing our minds? Here are a few tips that have helped me, and I hope they'll bring some relief to other moms feeling the same way: 

Embrace Imperfection: No one has it all together, and that's okay. Some days you'll rock the mom game, and other days you'll feel like a hot mess. Laugh at the chaos and remind yourself that perfection is overrated. 

Prioritize What Matters: Identify what's truly important to you and focus on those things. Whether it's quality time with your kids, growing your business, or simply taking a moment to breathe, give yourself permission to prioritize what lights you up. 

Set Boundaries: Boundaries aren't just about saying no to others; they're also about setting limits for yourself. Limit screen time, carve out moments for self-care, and don't be afraid to protect your peace. 

Find Your Zen (In Your Own Way): Relaxation looks different for everyone. Whether it's a quiet cup of coffee in the morning, a walk in nature, or a family camping trip, find what helps you unwind and make it a non-negotiable part of your routine. 

Connect with Others: Surround yourself with a support system that understands and uplifts you. Share your struggles, celebrate your wins, and lean on each other during the tough times. 

Remember, we're all doing our best, even when it feels like we're falling short. This summer, let's give ourselves grace, find the humor in the chaos, and embrace the beautiful messiness of it all. Here's to thriving amidst the summer anxiety and making memories that will last a lifetime. 

Stay hopeful, find humor, and above all, stay kind to yourself. 

With love and laughter,  

Erin