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Tips for Supporting Your Tween or Teen’s Transition Back to School

Erin Bratsky, MSW, LCPC
September, 2024


As the new school year begins, it’s common for tweens and teens to experience stress, whether it’s the pressure of balancing homework, navigating friendships, or adjusting to major changes like entering a new grade or school. At Brighter Sky Counseling, we understand how important family support is during these times, especially for tweens and teens, who may not always express their feelings openly but still need your help.

Consistency and Predictability Matter

Tweens and teens, just like younger children, benefit from consistency and predictability, especially during periods of transition. The back-to-school season is a perfect time to establish routines and create a supportive environment that helps them manage stress and stay focused. Here are some practical ways to support your teen during this time:

  • Go over the school calendar together: Reviewing important dates like grading periods, sports events, and parent-teacher conferences allows your teen to plan and manage their time effectively. This also helps you stay connected and aware of their school obligations.
  • Discuss schedules and expectations: Have a conversation about what their school day will look like, from class schedules to extracurricular activities. This helps them know what to expect and allows you to support them in managing their time.
  • Set a sleep routine: While teens may want to stay up late, it’s important they get enough sleep to handle the demands of school. Establish consistent bedtimes and wake-up times to ensure they’re rested and ready for the day ahead.
  • Review school transportation plans: If there are changes to how your teen will get to and from school, make sure they’re clear on the plan. Practice the route together if necessary, especially if they’re starting at a new school. Discuss an emergency plan if transportation plans fall apart. 

Creating Space for Open Conversations

Tweens and teens often juggle a variety of emotions, but they may not always share them openly. That’s why it’s important to check in with them regularly. Ask how they’re feeling about the new school year, and let them know that whatever they’re experiencing—whether excitement, anxiety, or uncertainty—is normal. Listen without judgment, validate their concerns, and work together to find ways to manage any worries they have. Just knowing you’re there and ready to listen can make a big difference.

Teaching Emotional Regulation

Adolescence can be a time of heightened emotional ups and downs, so it’s helpful to provide your tween or teen with strategies to regulate their emotions. Whether it’s through deep breathing exercises, physical activity, or mindfulness techniques, practicing these coping skills together can equip them to handle stressful moments, both at school and at home.

Encourage Independence While Building a Support Network

During the tween and teen years, kids begin to seek more independence, but it’s still important for them to have a strong support network. Encourage your teen to think about other trusted adults they can turn to if they need help or advice—whether it’s a teacher, coach, school counselor, or family friend. Building these connections can help them feel more supported beyond the immediate family.

Recognizing Signs of Distress

While all tweens and teens experience stress, it’s important to be on the lookout for signs of more serious mental health concerns. In teens, stress or anxiety can show up as moodiness, irritability, withdrawal from social activities, changes in eating habits, or behaviors like picking at their skin or hair. These signs may indicate that your teen is struggling with something deeper.

If your teen is showing persistent signs of distress, know that you don’t have to face this challenge alone. Reaching out to your school counselor, your teen’s doctor, or a mental health provider like Brighter Sky Counseling is a critical step in supporting your child’s mental health. We specialize in helping tweens and teens navigate their emotional challenges and provide the tools they need to build resilience.

Taking Care of Yourself is Essential

Supporting a tween or teen through their transition back to school can be stressful for parents as well. Remember that managing your own stress is key to being able to support your teen effectively. Don’t hesitate to tap into your support system, and give yourself the same kindness and understanding you offer your teen.

At Brighter Sky Counseling, we are here to help your family through this transition. Whether through individual therapy for your teen or family sessions, we’re committed to helping families navigate the ups and downs of adolescence and build stronger, healthier relationships.